Let us start with one experience that changed my life, and I am quite sure that same can change yours, or maybe, you can help in changing someone else’s life with it. Change in a way to pluck someone out of a self-pitied world they have been living in, with the power of LISTENING!
In a world where nearly everyone has a story to tell, but not everyone has a person who is willing to listen to them, without relating it to their own story, or interrupting with a completely different thing.
In my past one year of meeting people who were suffering from anxiety, depression and other mental health problems, I have realized that listening to them is one of the best gifts you can give to the person whom you think is suffering. The unconditional way of listening someone makes them feel about himself or herself.
A few days back, after I had a long chat with my old friend, mostly based on listening to her, where she told me that she had more than 12,000 followers on twitter and no one to talk to when she was alone. I let her vent out everything she had been storing inside her; it was a long session of just listening to her.
Later she convinced me that she was feeling better than before. I tried the same thing with several others and I was really pleased with the results. The process of listening to someone without interrupting and without throwing any judgment can be like the medicines of happiness for them.
Plato, a classical Greek Philosopher, and Mathematician, once said, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. ” Sometimes it becomes easier for our mind to judge others based on their current status. People say weird things; most of the things won’t even make sense, and a lot more won’t be scientifically true. Keep in mind that beliefs are never more important than the person who is special to you.
Here is the list you should follow in order to heal a person through listening with an undivided attention: –
- Have a one-to-one conversation
- Do not judge
- If you get angry easily, meditate before listening.
- No, please don’t tell about how you felt when the same thing happened to you.
- No! It’s not in their mind. (You will make it worse by saying it.)
- Be extremely polite
- Ask questions related to them.
- Appreciate them.
- Tell them how special they are.
- No, it’s not their fault.
It really makes me sad when people say that they don’t have anyone to talk to. I don’t want anyone to feel that. I don’t know you, but I care for you, and I am always available to talk to you.
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With this upcoming blog I have decided to stay very active on my blog here, nonetheless, I will try to post at least 4 times a month.